07 September, 2014

IT'S OK TO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

It's OK To Not Know What You Want

Has anyone ever asked you what are you doing with your life? Pretty scary and open ended question right? I hear you, I've been there many a times and I don't know about you but it can feel a little bit exasperating at times. I just think why does it matter so much to have your life mapped out to the t? How can we know what's around the corner for us? Of course I like having certain goals to work towards but sometimes it's OK to not have it all planned out.

You go to school, maybe go to Uni, try and find your dream job and all the while searching for 'the one'. The reality is for me I didn't get in to my first choice Uni, I didn't love my course, I've stayed in jobs that I hated and had my heart broken by absolute idiots - ha! My twenties may have been tough but having added pressure to have everything mapped out made it even more stressful. I wish I knew it didn't matter if I didn't find my dream career yet or find the love of my life straight away! So life doesn't always go to plan but it's OK, that's why they call it life lesson.

Life is whatever you choose it to be


The world really is your oyster 


Settle down when you feel ready


Money isn't everything


It's OK to make mistakes, no one's perfect!


We all have to make decisions in life but why does there have to be a ticking clock at the same time? Deciding on your future can be pretty daunting at times or you can just roll with the punches and see where it takes you! Everyone seems to be in a hurry to complete this and succeed at that but forgot to take moments and just enjoy living, cos that's what I plan to do :)

Do you like things planned out or live day by day?



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35 comments

  1. I do like certain things to go day by day, but I would like to have a big picture plan for myself. But I can see where you are coming from, because my husband feels the way you feel and he refuse to have a plan that does not satisfy him just because society tells him so.

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  2. I love this post it's very relatable! Some people know from 4 years old what they want and I feel like sometimes I'm the only one who doesn't know what I want! Abi :)

    MyW0rldMyView

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  3. Completely agree with you here! Everyone seems to expect you have a 10 year plan to success ("where do you see yourself in 10 years", the most annoying of the interview questions imo), but I think that figuring it out on the way, works just as well! Great post!


    X Lore/www.thesundayblah.com

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  4. I think having goals and aspirations is a good thing but I lack motivation sometimes as well! Good luck with whatever's next for you :)
    Thanks for reading Amy x

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  5. A think having an end goal or big picture as you mention is good to keep things on track, rather than mirco managing our lifes day by day! Haha I hate conforming too sometimes but I've adapted more over the years :)

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  6. Thanks Abi! I agree, when I younger I was clueless on what I wanted to do, it's been a constant learning curve since then!

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  7. Thanks Marianna! I know exactly how you feel, I commited to my BA degree and 5-6 years after to an industry that in the end wasn't quite right for me. I felt like a faliure at the time but now I couldn't be happier! I'm glad I changed my environment even though it took me a few years to get there :)

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  8. I agree that dreaded question, how can anyone plan life out like that?! I guess it's good if you're really ambitious :)

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  9. That's great that you weren't afraid of the change! So many people "stick with it" even though they don't love what they're do, just because they think starting over equals wasted time.

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  10. You're right, although I do think I have ambition, I just haven't completely figured out what I want to direct it to. : )

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  11. Thats good! Once you find that direction, I hope it's something you enjoy :)

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  12. I couldn't agree more, some people like to feel safe even though they're unhappy...I always have that feeling at the back of my head 'what if?' so I try and welcome change even though it may be scary :)

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  13. In my early to mid-twenties, I was going through a quarter life crisis where I felt so lost and useless. I had to step back and realize what I really wanted and reading the "20 Something Manifesto" (http://www.amazon.com/20-Something-Manifesto-Quarter-Lifers-Speak/dp/1577315952), REALLY REALLY helped. I realized I wanted to work in the beauty industry and it helped me take the steps to achieve that. Highly recommend the book!

    xx Alyson
    The Beauty Vanity

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  14. I used to live day by day but I feel like it is better to have a bit of a goal just so I don't feel like I am wasting my time and it's always good to have something to work forward to.

    Kah-Feh Yen

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  15. I completely agree with all of this, I always had a plan as to what I wanted and I was forced to take a bit of a detour to get here (I'm lucky enough to say I'm where I always wanted to be now) and the detour taught me more than a direct route ever would. I made friends I'd have never met and although it seemed like I wasn't achieving anything, it all helps eventually, even when you don't think it ever will. Keep going!

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  16. I hit a stumbling block around my mid twenties too, I kept thinking I should be 'sorted' by now but it's never to late to pursue different goals. Thanks for the book recommendation, it looks really interesting! xx

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  17. I love this post! I really do try and take each day as it comes and stop getting so worked up about everything xx

    Gemma | missmakeupmagpie.com

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  18. Yes having goals does keep you on track, even if it's a much bigger picture :)

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  19. That's great to here Lisa! It's so nice to see you didn't give up, I always think mistakes always adds to life experiences!

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  20. Thanks Gemma, that's a great way to think :)

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  21. The best part of this blog post is the comments section! Great to hear everyone's opinions and experiences. I myself "started over" and could - not - be - happier! It's hard for others in their 20s to wrap their minds around the idea that it's OK to step off, reevaluate, and redirect. Everyone is so intent on e.g. graduating "on time" but I remember asking the question "What are the bad things that'll happen if you graduate 1 year later?" and everyone was confused lol.

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  22. Loved this! I'm only 20 and not having a plan gives me anxiety sometimes but, then I set short term goals that are a big help for the future!

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  23. Hi Hahn,


    This is a really great post! I only wish I could I could tell my 20 year old self the same thing! I used think I needed to have everything figured everything out, but now that doing what makes me happy on a daily/weekly basis leads me in the right direction to where I eventually want to be. I think it's good to have some plans, but it's okay for plans to change too!


    Cheers,
    Eileen | yesmissy.com

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  24. Good advice, I know so many people who get so stressed out because they still don't know what to do in their mid twenties, and I just want to tell them do what you want! You still have so much life ahead of you!

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  25. I'm definitely someone who lives day by day, I hardly ever plan anything out haha. That's why I hate it when people ask about my future. It's none of their business anyway, so why do they need to know?! x

    www.savvysuperstylish.blogspot.co.uk

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  26. Thanks Eileen! It's so nice to hear you're doing what you love and enjoy now, even if it takes a while to get there it's ok to change direction! It's never to late to change your plans in life :)

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  27. Very good point Allyson! I feel like telling them the same thing!

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  28. Haha I know what you mean, I think its human nature that people ask but not having a plan is not the end of the world!

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  29. Don't mind me; just testing out the reply function on Gmail! ^^;

    Quinn
    www.Desgettier.com
    @desgettier

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  30. In theory I'd want everything planned out. But what's that saying? Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans? So true. As I've gotten older I try to focus on going with my gut and doing things that make me happy in the moment more often. The idea that something you love when you are 15 being the same as when you are 30 or 50 seems possible but unrealistic, I think. You grow and change every year so I think it makes sense that you would want to try something new. I had goals and dreams when I was headed to university and now some of those are still what I want and others have shifted. You need a direction to go but don't feel bad if you want to adjust as time goes by.

    :) Alice

    www.alicemanfrida.com

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  31. I agree Alice, I feel like a completely different person from 5 years ago. Our goals and plans are bound to change as we get older! Just as long as you enjoy living life in the moment but don't loose sight of the bigger picture, then life can only get better right? :)

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  32. I love this post, Hanh! So relatable. I'm 2 years out from graduating with a BA, which, in this job market, doesn't mean much these days and I'm still sort of floating around unsure where to go next. I feel like there's a thousand paths I could take and not sure which road to travel down!


    http://bohonouveau.blogspot.ca/

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  33. Thanks Meg! This is an exciting time in your life, even though you're unsure right now, I'm sure you will enjoy the journey and experiences along the way! xx

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