11 January, 2015

KILL IT WITH KINDNESS

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In true Kardashian style, you just got to kill it sometimes. Kill it with kindness as being kind goes a long way in life, I'm not a fan of tough love or being cruel to be kind. Small and simple acts of kindness makes me have faith in people again. We live in a world where it can feel chaotic, sometimes soulless and heartless. In particular living in London for the last 13 years, it does harder you I feel sad to say. Of course not everyone is rude but if you're a Londoner than you know what I mean! I rush about my day to day life in my own little world, but it's good to step back and think about those around you. We all choose how we feel, choosing to be kind rather than unhelpful makes such a difference and I want to do it more.

Going out of your way to be kind to those around you, strangers, neighbours or people that you work with - makes you feel good and lifts your mood. I fell over on the pavement quite hard the other day and banged my knees, it was painful! Thankfully one guy went out of his way to help me up and see if I was ok, it made me feel better that a stranger was nice enough to help me. People can choose to help or just walk away.

We've all been in those situations when someone is just being plain rude, unkind or ill mannered. The easiest way is to rise above the situation and to be the opposite of how they expect you to react. Be level headed, keep your voice calm. You'll be surprised how quickly they'll stop being angry and get on your level. Kill them with your kindness. They'll soon pipe down!

I want to do more little things that will help people and be less selfish, it's always the little things that makes the most difference! 3 things I'm going to try and do more of - let people go in front of me, assist other passengers if they have heavy loads and be kinder to the environment - a broad one I know!


What small acts of kindness have you experienced? 



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32 comments

  1. If I see someone drop something near me, I always rush to help them pick it up. I actually don't understand why a lot of other people don't do this?? I've literally seen people watch something roll past them and not attempt to help / pick it up. Whatever.

    Tegan xx - Permanent Procrastination

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  2. I really wish there are more people with the same mindset as you. So many people are just so inconsiderate and selfish.

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  3. Trying to get used to this London busy lifestyle at times can definitely be tough. One crazy Saturday before Christmas I found myself around Green Park area and needless to say it was busy. Some guy literally knocked down my toddler and didn't even stop, I was shocked. I also hate that pregnant women have to ask or wear a badge in order to get a seat on the tube. We need more people like you x

    Beauty with charm

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  4. Individualism is taking way too much place nowadays and if more people were able to step back and make this kind of reflection, it would trigger such a big change. Simple things like keeping the door opened for the person after you seems so hard now, so many times I was faced with a shutting door while walking behind a person. The main thing that I would like to do more is to eat more often with my parents. As the years went by, it seems like I became busier and busier and each time that my parents would call if I'll make it for dinner, I would say that I'm busy. It's not really a act of kindness hahaha but it will make me feel better to know that I'm spending more time with my aging parents. :)

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  5. It always makes me feel good when I can do something small to help others. I managed to get two in one afternoon this week- a lady needed change for the hospital car park so I helped her out, and then another lady had her hands full with a folded buggy, a scooter and a toddler getting onto the bus so I gave her a hand. Lots of people have been kind enough to offer me teaching and learning experiences this week, so it's nice to just pay forward their kindness with small acts like this :)

    Jennifer x

    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

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  6. Sometimes when people smile at me, it just makes me feel so much better! It's something so tiny, but it brightens up my day. You know Hanh, I really love your posts. After I read them I'm always left thinking about them a little bit more through my day.


    Cheers,
    Eileen | www.yesmissy.com

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  7. Loved this post. I had a time on my life when I was getting angry and bitching about everything. The smallest thing made me pissed and I was just spitting venom out of my mouth more often than not. I ended up feeling like a terrible person and decided that had to change. I really try to be kind to people around me; I mean, we all have bad days and get angry sometimes, but I try to compensate it with kindness. I truly believe that if every person would make a small effort to be nicer and more supportive, the world would be a much better place to live. I know it sounds a bit dreamy and unrealistic, but well. At least I can feel better knowing that I do try.

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  8. I know I'm the same! I'm always thankful if someone hands me something I drop, otherwise I'll never realise!

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  9. That's nice of you to say so Miriam :) I'm not perfect but I always try and be considerate of other people!

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  10. That is so rude, people really should more considerate of adults and kids! There's no need to rushing around but that's what it's like in London :/ The tube is a very inconsiderate place! I feel sorry for pregnant woman travelling, it shouldn't be so much to ask to get a seat.

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  11. I completely agree with you, I don't know when people got so inconsiderate....it's sad really. That's a really nice thing to try and do more, I think it would mean a lot to your parents :) Being with family is always a good feeling, whenever I have a free weekend I always try and visit my family :)

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  12. Those are really nice things to do and help other people, I'm sure they really appreciated :) Yes I agree, what goes around comes across as they say :)

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  13. Yes people don't smile enough! A smile is very contagious :)
    Thanks Eileen, that's sweet of you to say so. I appreciate your support :)

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  14. I was the same Carla, in my mid twenties I had a big chip on my shoulder and would have such a bad attitude. As I got older, like you I've try to make more of an effort to be kind and considerate to those around me. People don't deserve my bad mood inflicted on them!
    I don't think it's dreamy at all! People should learn to be that little bit more kinder, imagine that :)

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  15. This is such a lovely post - I love this mindset. It's so easy to get caught up in our own lives so a little consideration towards others can go a long way; you never know, that one small random act of kindness could brighten up a person's whole day :)

    thebellenarrative.com

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  16. I love the quote and try to live by it. I can't agree with this post more and it was wonderful reading it. A smile, or someone holding the door for you, goes a long way and always find myself very grateful when I come across people like that. Kindness is way underrated :)

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  17. That's so true! I know I always appreciate these little acts of kindness, especially from strangers :)

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  18. It's it weird how this kind of behaviour is the norm right? It's kind of sad really, think that's why we appreciate it more when it does happen :)

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  19. This is such a lovely post :) I totally agree with you!
    I love random compliments, even (especially) to/from strangers! Let them know if they're wearing something pretty,etc.
    And smile more often!

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  20. Thanks Conney :) I know it's really nice to get unexpected compliments from people and it really makes your day!

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  21. I couldn't agree more! I was once on a very crowded tube with my mum, who isn't used to getting around London, and as more and more people were clambering on, we started to get separated. A very nice man saw what was happening and went out of his way to switch places with me so that I could stand with her. When things like that happen it really restores your faith in human nature! x
    Kate Louise Blogs

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  22. Yes! It's little things like strangers helping that makes us feel good about others! The other day, one man asked me if I wanted to stand by the door on the tube so I lean against it, instead of wobbling around. I was pleasantly shocked!

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  23. love this, completely agree!


    xx danielle // shadesofdanielle.blogspot.com

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  24. Thanks for reading Danielle :)

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  25. so nice that that guy helped you! i love kindness like that

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  26. I agree thanks for reading Helen :)

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  27. Kindess is very underrated, a skill some people need to learn again i think!

    I had a couple stop and offer help when I broke down in my car the other day, It was a nice break from the others just beeping as they went by!

    Allie
    Rush & Teal

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  28. That's so true! If everyone was that little bit more kinder, it would be such a better place. I heard people in Japan are very polite, it must be so refreshing for tourists there!

    That's nice of them to help you, everyone needs a helping hand now and then.

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  29. I have literally binge-read your entire blog in the last couple of days, love it so much hun! ps Nice that the guy helped you out too, I've seen so many people walk away when things like that happen.


    Elle
    www.theellenextdoor.com
    xx

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  30. Aww thanks so much Elle, that's so nice to hear :) seriously made my day!
    I know it happens all the time, I always so thankful when people stop and help.

    Thanks for reading hun xx

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  31. Just smiling and saying hello is enough to lift the mood of any situation. I try to aspire to this but find it difficult especially rammed onto a packed train whilst commuting. BTW, I LOVE that mug so much, I've just treated myself to it on Etsy haha x

    In case you haven't noticed, I'm reading through all your posts... like your reader Ellie says, I'm binge-reading your blog! love love love it!

    lucylovestoeat.com

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  32. I agree, if one everyone around us felt the same way it wouldn't be so difficult to be that little bit more cheerful! Ohh yes it's such a cute mug ^^

    Aww thanks Lucy, love reading your comments, thanks so much for taking the time to read it, it means a lot :) xx

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