01 July, 2015

BUILDING GENUINE RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE

Building Genuine Relationships Online
 
Love it or hate it social media allow us even more access to people's lives and makes it super easy to connect to people all over the world. Pretty amazing considering I used to be super wary of anyone wanting to know my AIM username way back when for a 'chat'. It's easy to put ourselves out there but how do we really build genuine and honest relationships online?

For me it's all about connecting and following 
like minded people online.  

It's makes sense right, we're more likely to find common ground and build relationships with other people online based on similar interests. May from Red Velvet London wrote a great post a while ago about blogging friendships vs statistic friends. Coincidentally May has been someone I've enjoyed following for a while and it was only natural we would meet up IRL!

It can be easy to fall into the trap of trying to gain lots of followers quickly, following anyone and everyone in the hope they will follow you back, which is what I did when I first started my blog. I soon realised this wasn't how I wanted to gain followers and just let things happen naturally. The thing about online relationships is how easy it is to just drop people, unfollow them with one click. It's hard to know who to really invest the time and connect with?

The blogging community is an amazing if not over whelming place. It also can feel a little lonely at times, we spend so much time typing away, not knowing if anyone is actually reading what you have to say! It can be easy to leave half hearted comments - you know the ones 'great post - follow for follow?' Let's be real you're not really connecting with the blogger are you?

 
I want readers to feel like they're catching up with 
a friend when they read my blog.

I try and be as relatable as possible :) Bloggers who think of their readers each time they write, can really add more value to their content. This post has been a bit long winded but I do want to say I appreciate everyone that takes the time to read through my posts and leave comments. Having an online space would feel very empty without actually building relationships with you guys - so thank you!


What are your thoughts on online relationships?

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  1. This is such an interesting topic! Finding someone like minded from blogging is so amazing and you just become friends so quickly. I think that blogging is such a good way of putting who you are out there and talking about the things you are interested in, so when it comes to creating content I always make sure that whatever I'm saying is what I would say not just a 'popular opinion'. And of course not everyone you meet online is going to be your best friend, and there are some people who only use your comment section to get themselves out there but at the end of the day you will meet more like minded people just by putting who you are out there.

    Yet Another Makeup Blog.

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  2. Love that you're sharing your opinion with us on this topic. I know this one particular (and quite popular) photographer here in Paris, who only hangs out with a selected group (who all have a bazillion followers on Instagram). Perhaps they are real friends, but I personally think that they also all hang out to help each other gain followers.. That's quite sad sometimes.

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  3. Loved this post, Hanh! I've made some amazingly close friends through blogging, and it's something I never would have expected when I first started! And as for a readership, I'm like you and I try my hardest to be as relatable as possible! (Also, those 'follow for follow' comments are the worst!!)

    Rhianna | robowecop

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  4. I have realized that finding something common with bloggers is the way to go too. I started similarly and now I just don't have the time to invest in people who are not interested in genuine relationship. I think it is more satisfying that way too.

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  5. I so agree with you! I love meeting like-minded bloggers through this platform and those that leave thoughtful comments (I agree with Rhianna below, F4F comments are pretty bad)!

    Tina
    www.justatinabit.com

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  6. I love meeting like minded people through the blog - its amazing how blogging can bring people together :)

    Mehreen A | wrapyourlipsaroundthis.com

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  7. I completely agree Mehreen, it's really nice meeting other bloggers online :)

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  8. Me too Tina! I love finding out about other bloggers lives and what they get up or wear in your case :) xx

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  9. Yes glad you feel the same Anu, I want to spend time catching up with friends online and not worry too much about the numbers.

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  10. Thanks Rhianna, glad you enjoyed reading it! That's so lovely you've made close friends - it's a nice bond to share :) Haha I don't get those comments as much now but they do make me laugh. xx

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  11. I really like this post! Being new to the blogging world I am still unsure about a lot of things. This was great to read! :)
    Danielle
    http://www.blushblossom.com

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  12. Hi Eline, I know what you mean I personally don't like clique groups on or offline. Sometime you never know if people are friends for genuine reasons or if it's good for their image?

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  13. Yes my thoughts too Yige, you can't please and appeal to everyone online. I'm the same, I share content that is a reflection of me and voice, so readers know what I'm about :)

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  14. Haha don't worry I feel the same way Cherie, I follow very few 'big' blogs and rather concentrate on getting to know real and relatable bloggers! Aww that means a lot thank you!

    Yes on trend topics without any substance irks me too, I find that a lot more on Youtube.

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  15. I hope you're enjoying blogging Danielle! It's such a nice way to meet other people :)

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  16. This was a great read. I started blogging because I loved makeup and reading blogs but I think the thing I love the most about blogging is sharing and building relationships with fellow bloggers! xx

    Alexandra | Glam O’Clock

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  17. This post was a great read ! I loved how you used yourself as an example, I think it definitely goes to show that one should blog because they want to share common experiences/likes with others, not for popularity ! Stay lovely (:


    <3,
    rgmendoza.blogspot.com

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  18. Hi Alexandra, yes me too! I never thought I would meet so many amazing bloggers :)

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  19. Thanks so much! Yes I feel the same way too :)

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  20. Thanks so much!! I am!

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  21. not long winded at all! :) i think this is a really interesting perspective that not every blogger embraces!

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  22. You are so right, the blogging community can be overwhelming and lonely a the same time. It's good to know others are thinking the same thing!

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  23. I completely agree with this! I've met so many wonderful people through my blog - including you! - and I think it's the best thing about blogging. It's so easy to find like-minded people to become friends with, and thanks to blogging events etc. we can meet them in real life!

    Such a lovely post :)

    Hazel xxx

    hazeljane.co.uk

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  24. Aww i'm so glad our blogging paths have crossed too Hazel! I love that about blogging too, i never expected to connect with so many nice people :) xx

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  25. Yes I definately feel it some times, thanks for reading Toria :)

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  26. Aww this is such a sweet, inspiring post. I'm still kinda new to this blogging community, but I agree with what you said. I've actually met many awesome people on the internet before I started my current blog, and I look forward to meeting new people with the same interests in this community too :)

    NICOLE'S NOTEBOOK - lifestyle, food, travel & beauty+

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  27. Hi Nicole, that's great I really think the blogging community is such a great aspect of being online and making new friends :)

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  28. Such a great post! So many things I agree with. I was sceptical about restarting my blog, but I am glad I have found some like minded bloggers! I really like how your posts are so relatable!



    Louise | The StyleWalk x

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  29. Thanks Louise! I agree that's such a nice thing about blogging, meeting other people :) thanks so much! xx

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  30. Thanks so much Lenny, so glad you enjoyed this post :) I know that feeling, when I first started this blog I was obsessed with getting followers and not really writing quality content. The sooner I realised about building relationships with other bloggers I notice it makes a difference. I know it's easy to feel like no one is reading but like you said, it's all about sharing :)

    Thanks for taking the time to comment :) xx

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