15 February, 2015


Don't worry this isn't a condensing post on how to find the 'one' but if you want a witty and realistic take on dating then check out my sister Thuy's column for match.com - hilarious. Whether you're loved up or not, relationships are not all picnics in the park, they take time and effort to work. Here are some thoughts on building happy relationships, I would love to know your relationship secrets too!


Who doesn't like receiving compliments, it makes us feel good so of course it's nice to compliment our partner. It doesn't take much effort but lifts their mood and makes us feel good too. Just be genuine, it's probably not great to tell them they look amazing when they've had no sleep and looking worse for wear! It's easy to say 'I love you' but it's even nicer to tell them why :)


Being in a relationship, you share lots of milestones together and it's always nice to celebrate new achievements too. Whether they've had a promotion at work or passed their driving test, it's nice to make them feel special and show them how proud you are.


We're all busy, I get that but making time for date night, a lunch date or a weekend away with your partner is really good to just connect and down tools for a few hours/days. Plan ahead so you have something to look forward too!


I love remembering all the fun experiences I've shared with Hang - holidays, trips, concerts and going to new restaurants. Find time to go somewhere different and try something new. Sharing experiences can bring you closer together, gives you fun memories to look back on, laugh about or try again!


You don't need to tell your partner everything your doing (or eating ahem) but having an open line of communication is really important. Talk it out, confide in each other, express your concerns, be in it together.

I would love to know your thoughts on happy relationships?

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  1. making time for each other is the hardest one when two people live with each other. There is being together and there is being in the same room together lol. Since I started med school, I am learning to differentiate between the two and trying to make quality time for our relationship. Not gonna lie and say I have mastered it, but working on it for sure.

  2. I love this Hanh! Talking about our favourite experiences, it has to be our wedding day and our 2 wk honeymoon to Japan. These 2 memories always makes us smile.

    I think it's also important to do things for each other. I love him so much when he helps me with housework and I know he appreciates a shoulder massage after a long day in front of the computer! =D


  3. I think another important one is to give each other space too. Like some people are really possessive, and while it can be romantic at times, it can feel a bit stifling and not healthy.

    Sheri | Behind The Frames

  4. Haha I know exactly what you mean Anu, when we have dinner we try not to have the tv on, it's just small moments like this when you can just talk and be in the room 'together' like you said! That's a great attitude though, willingness to adapt :)

  5. Aww that's so sweet Lucy! Yes being considerate of each other goes a long way :)

    Both amazing experiences that you guys can always look back on :)

  6. That's a really good point Sheri, giving each other space to do things on their own is healthy for a relationship. Thanks for reading :)

  7. I would say travel is great for a happy relationship! It gets you both out of your comfort zone and mixes things up a bit :)

    Lizzy from Nomad Notebook

  8. Cool post and thanks for the shout out!x

  9. You are always so wise and thoughtful! I totally agree with everything you listed here, especially about sharing experiences. I think exploring, traveling, or whatever it is, is so important since that's how you create long lasting memories!


  10. Very nice post, Hanh. Definitely relationships are not easy sometimes and they do require work. It's not a "oh, I have a boyfriend now, I'm done" kind of thing.

    To what you've stated I would add: don't let go of the small things.I still hold my boyfriend's hand 90% of the times we're walking on the street, we still kiss goodnight every day... those are small habits that a lot of couples let go with time, but I find them important. They help keeping the connection with the other person!

  11. Definitely! That's a great point Lizzy, travel and changes in environment is nice for both of you to get away from it all :)

  12. Aww thanks Tina :) Yes traveling together is always a great experience, I love looking back on our past travels :)

  13. This is such a cute post haha! I don't know a perfect formula to a happy relationship but I suppose 'knowing yourself' scraps a big deal of unnecessary problems and/or issues with your partner. Let each other do their own thing and be mature about conflicting interests? I'm too old to be bothered with subliminal messages so being straight forward keeps things easy!

  14. Yes that's so true! Aww I'm so glad you mentioned that, I'm still lovey dovey with my guy it's the little things that keeps the romance alive :)

  15. That's a great point hun, you have to know and learn to be your own person too without your partner. Being in a relationship is not about playing games like you said. xx

  16. I also believe in "not letting break up be an option". It's like this: when you know you love someone and he/she is the one, then you should not think that breaking up ever is an option (unless of course he/she makes you unhappy). This way you learn to work through the problems and not quit just because you can't be bothered.

    Loved the post!


  17. That's a really good point, not giving up when the going gets tough helps build stronger relationships :)

    Thanks for reading Anceeta!


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